WARNING: SERIOUS RANT AHEAD
I know a lot of people, women especially, who say that they're not scared of being single, they just prefer to be in a relationship. Sorry for being harsh, but I call BS on that. We live in a world where people find their self-worth through their significant other and where we pity people who are not in a relationship. I'm barely an adult and people already pity me.
Lately, I've been feeling a lot of pressure to be on the road to a relationship that will eventually merge into the marriage lane. I'm no expert on relationships and certainly not on marriage, but there are so many girls that are pretty obviously not ready to be in such a serious committed relationship. How do I know that? Easy. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love someone else?
Low self-esteem is running rampant thanks to social media and it's telling us that we're not worth much as women if we're not falling hopelessly in love with some guy in a completely obnoxious sequence of montages. Shouldn't we take the time to learn to love ourselves first? Hell yes!
So whenever people ask me if I'm looking for a boyfriend or if I plan on being a nun, I'm going to roll my eyes every time. I don't take being in a relationship lightly because you're dealing with a human being and their emotions. You shouldn't be in a relationship to make yourself feel better, you should be in a relationship to make the other person feel better. We need to stop being selfish about our feelings and think more about the other person.
We jump into relationships because we're scared. Scared of being alone, scared of being left out, and scared of the fact that maybe we're missing something.
I'm not scared of being single because I've realized that college is the time in my life where I get to focus on myself. Instead of spending my time and energy on finding someone, I spend it on finding myself. So stop being scared and stop looking for a relationship that probably won't work out anyways. Take your single time and focus on loving yourself. Trust me, it's so much fun.